If you are, like me, for a long time in the dating scene looking for the right one, you might have experienced it all: From a few success stories to plenty of rejection and disappointment. And if you are, like me, not the whiner and complainer, or worst I-know-it-all-kind of-guy but rather the problem solver you might have looked for advice and found plenty of useless online dating advice from self-declared “Dating Guru’s” or worst even some woman who tried to tell you that you have to use seduction and be the bad guy to get you somewhere.
Also there is plenty of advice out there for woman but only a few advice books for man.
After reading Dr. Christie Hartman’s book “Changing your Game” I can assure any man to stop looking for false advice – THIS BOOK IS ALL YOU NEED.
What makes this book better than others even perfect
One thing I like about this book is that it is fascinating written. Even if you have a long work day and cannot read it all at once – the chapters are written in a form that you find yourself eager to see how it continues.
And on top of it, this is the kind of book that you DON’T want to put in a corner once you read it – ON A CONTRARY – whenever you find yourself in a difficult situation and look for advice all you need is this book to see what solutions are the best suitable for the situation.
This book also covers a broad spectrum of what a man wants and needs to know about woman and dating (conventional and online). Let’s face it though my old grand pappy used to say man can never understand woman, or some guys think they know it all – this is nonsense; just as it is nonsense that all woman “tick” equally. Women just like man are individually only their genetic programing is similar and in order to become more successful one needs to understand the basics.
Another reason why this book is fascinating written for me – most psychologists use language that is far beyond understanding and in “Doctors language” makes you constantly feel like you are dumber than the rest – NOT THIS ONE.
Dr. Hartman uses some clear language, easy to understand, reject the overuse of psychological loanwords and uses examples out of life and sometimes out of her own experience.
She makes clear statements without the finger pointing. What she does is, in her own professional way she points out the facts without making a man feel like a moron.
This Book is perfect for every problem solver and those who want to learn how to solve their problems in dating and as a continuing reference book.
All this from a woman’s perspective without feeling the need to put man down and give you the impression that only bad guys get the girls. After reading her book now I know that even a good guy with old fashioned morals and manners can get the right woman (even hot ones) if he stops making the same mistake over and over but rather solve the problems.
And Dr. Hartman’s book is the perfect guideline for that.
Who should read this book:
Problem solvers of all kind: Now we man tend to think two dimensional and based on our profession (Lawyers like Lawyers, Engineers like Engineers) and tend to approach the problem solving in a way we work. “Changing your Game” however shows you different perspectives without making you feel like you suck. Just from the woman’s perspective based on real life examples and her own experience during her own dating time.
Complainers who are tired of complaining and finally want results, and learn how to solve the problem; and the problem is the man not the woman.
And last but not least Woman to understand the hassle man go through during dating and why they react how they react.
Like not all woman are the same not all man are the same and woman might want to know how to read a man and there is no better way to understand what man go through then getting it from THIS BOOK where Dr. Hartman gives man advice on how to deal with sometimes more and sometimes less difficult dating situations and more or less difficult woman situations.
At the same time every man should read Dr. Hartman’s book “It’s not Him, It’s YOU: the truth you may not want – but need – to Hear” to understand what woman go through when dating and get a better understanding.
What I don’t like about this book
It did not come out or brought to me 5 years ago I would be finally married by now and not have made so many mistakes.
This is a book I suggest for every guy out there who is in the dating field and sometimes gets really tired of it because of lack of success or he feels used.
This is a book every dater wants and needs to have and once he is finished Dating and caught in the blessing of a relationship and/or marriage this is a book he wants to pass on to his friends.
I DO STRONGLY SUGGEST THIS BOOK
Where do you find this book?
Also see and subscribe to her website and periodic Blog posts at: www.christiehartman.com
Once you get hooked to “Changing your game” (I did) you may also want to read
Dr. Christie Hartman, PhD in a nutshell:
Christie Hartman, a graduate of the University of Colorado is a behavioral scientist, dating expert and author of four dating Book (see above). She also appeared on national television, including “The today Show” and “Fox News Live” as well as on several local TV Shows.
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Written by Tom C. Lehner
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Column written by Theresa Catalani
Starting at the end of 2012 with the “fiscal cliff” negotiations, it seems clear that America will jump from one fiscal crisis to another so long as Washington refuses to acknowledge its addiction to government spending. Like all addicts, they need to get beyond the denial stage before they (we all) hit rock bottom.
Republicans in the U.S. Senate at least seem to understand with their leader Mitch McConnell saying on ABC News, “The tax issue is behind us. Now, the question is what are we going to do about the real problem… Now it’s time to pivot and turn to the real issue, which is our spending addiction.”[….]
Theresa Catalani is a Nevada resident of 18 years and current Carson City resident. She volunteers in her spare time and is a local Precinct Captain. During the 2012 Presidential Election, Catalani Co-Managed the Northern Nevada Paid Voter Registration Program and Paid Walk Program under the direction of the Republican National Committee. During Nevada’s 2011 Special Election for Congress she worked as a Field Representative for the Nevada Republican Party.
Today Washington Post reported that President elect Obama wants to appoint Senator Chuck Hagel (Republican – Nebraska) as “Secretary of Defense” in his new cabinet.
I would like to point out two personal opinions first:
First is that I strongly believe that any calling from the United States Government is an honor and a privilege to serve this wonderful country and WE THE PEOPLE.
And on a second note is that I strongly believe Senator Hagel is an excellent choice and perfectly qualified for that job. He is an Army Veteran who served honorably as Sergeant in Vietnam in the 47th Infantry Regiment, 9th Infantry Division and was awarded “Purple Heart”, “Army Commendation Medal”, “Vietnamese Gallantry Cross”, and “Combat Infantrymen Badge”.
And yet I think at this time he should NOT consider this calling.
When I posted the news on my social networks expressing my suspicion that this is more than a tactical move for political purpose by Obama, something he loves to do and something he became famous for the past 4 years, a Google Plus friend asked me following question:
“I suppose the question is: Do you do more good by calling him (Obama) out or by getting to where you have some say in how things go?”
That is a really good question here and here is my answer.
Let’s start with Mr. Obama himself
Obama is not really known to do what is right for the country or for the people nor does Obama care about anybody but Obama.
Fact is that Obama has three major construction sites ahead of him within the first 3 month of office.
The first one is the appointment of the replacement of Hillary Clinton as Secretary of State. After losing UN Ambassador Suzanne Rice as his first choice now he ogle’s with Presidential Candidate John Kerry (D – MA). But Congress Republicans already announced that they will look closer into that and take their time.
The second one is that Obama still has a huge budget negotiation ahead and after the way he bossed the GOP congress around on the fiscal cliff deal, using Obama-Chicago-Style tactics of a mix of blackmail and fault accusations to get his will he knows that he has to give the GOP something in order to get them at least tries to work.
And the third one is his very own narcissist personality. Ever since he took office in 2009 he claims to be a Bi-Partisan President of all Americans. OK we all know that his is pure nonsense and he is an extreme partisan and extreme radical President who cares only about two things: Barrack Obama and his radical supporters.
And this is where Senator Hagel now comes into play and why I think he should reject that calling.
As of first his calling as defense secretary is not because Obama all over Sutton discovered his true love for bi-partisanship. NO – the reality is a “Washington-Style-Give-and-Take-Game. The Congress waves John Kerry through and Obama gives them Chuck Hagel as Defense secretary.
Second of allonly a fool thinks Chuck Hagel will survive more than 6 month maximum a year in office. He will be there as long as Obama needs him to establish three major agendas he wants to have within the next 6 month as law
- The rise of the debt ceiling
- Tougher gun laws
- Emigration reform
For all three he needs the congress in order not to get stuck on everlasting discussions. He knows that the Congress right now is just about to walk out and would not even give him the time of the day.
And third of all Obama did not discover his love affair for GOP appointees. This is nothing but a Tactical move and PR stunt for Obama something he is already famous for. He is all policy and politics.
By appointing Senator Hagel he can, once again publically effective point out his “Bi-partisanship” and Once again in the liberal biased Mainstream Media point the finger on the GOP and how stubborn they might be.
When my friend on Google Plus asked me if it would not better to have somebody on the inside to change things – here is the answer NO. Because Mr. Obama will make sure that Senator Hagel is nothing more than a puppet as long as he needs him.
Even the Senator, with all his experience, should know that he will fool himself if he thinks he can change something or work properly – Obama will not allow it.
Like I said Obama is nothing about America or professionalism or WE THE PEOPLE for Obama it is all about Obama and tactics.
And as soon as Obama got what he wants from the Congress Senator Hagel will be replaced by a Democrat-Party-Loyal puppet.
And the honorable Senator will end his promising and long lasting career as a footnote. He lost his Senate seat where he could have made a difference and will be stropped as Defense Secretary.
If I could give the Senator some piece of Advice I would tell him: “Mr.: Senator Flips off Obama, show him the middle finger, tell him you are not that naïve and stay in the Senate and don’t allow this narcissist to use you, you deserve better.”
May God bless America and protect us from Obama